Last night I proudly gave in to another episode of the Style Network’s Giuliana & Bill. I had become a fan of the show’s previous season as the couple had begun to open up about their struggle with infertility, something that’s very much been a part of my own story.
Giuliana Rancic can be seen on E! News and nearly every televised red carpet Hollywood event. Her hubs, Bill Rancic, is a legit businessman who became “The Donald’s” inaugural hire on The Apprentice. They met, fell in love, and have since been juggling a jet-set lifestyle between her LA and his Chicago, a setting that does not make for easy baby-making. After a year of trying to conceive on their own, the couple tried IVF (in vitro fertilization, which Giuliana did a stellar job of explaining in layman’s terms), and were ecstatic to find out that after all the hormone shots and drugs and procedures… it had worked. They were pregnant!
Until they weren’t. The couple has come out in recent weeks to concede they suffered a miscarriage. Here they are on The View generously sharing their story:
The Rancics’ openness in talking about infertility is extraordinary, though sadly, their experience is not. In a previous episode, the doctor informed the couple before starting the IVF process that in women 35 and older, the chances of them conceiving naturally are a mere 1-2%. My doctor once told us that literally a thousand things need to fall into place in order for conception to take occur–and no, wine and mood lighting are not on that list.
People, that means every time life is created, it’s a miracle. Nothing short of an act of God. Those of us who have had a difficult time with infertility are just more aware of that fact because we were forced into the thick of it.
But it still happens all the time. The proof is in you and me.
Thankfully, there are procedures to help couples dramatically increase their chances of having a family–everything from IVF to eating exorbitant amounts of yams (yes, yams–an affordable alternative to the tens of thousands that can easily be thrown at IVF). Mum’s the word on whether or not I tried the latter (he he), but I can tell you the day before I was to call and set up an appointment to start the mammoth IVF ball a-rollin’–you guessed it–I found out I was pregnant. With twins.
Infertility is a huge problem, and people continue to suffer in silence with the false starts and the no-goes. We try to make sense of it all and take on a mantle of shame. My heart broke when in a preview for an upcoming episode after the Rancics miscarry, Giuliana confesses she feels they are being “punished” for something–and I remembered. I remembered feeling exactly the same way. Boy, I beat myself up something fierce.
But God lovingly redeems these situations. He does it all the time and in so many unimaginable ways. Couples who’ve been told they will never have biological children, who are of course, expecting now. Families who’ve lost and joyously adopted and then conceived. Couples who’ve traveled across the world to meet their sweet babes. Just last week I got word that a friend’s prayers have been answered five years after they started the process of adopting from China.
It’s all about claiming the children who were meant to be ours all along.
I am grateful the Rancics are telling their story, so that they needn’t feel isolated by discouragement. Their candidness is no doubt helping others wade through one of the toughest issues of their lives.
Oh, Peeps, we’re so much better together than we are on our own.
And you thought reality TV was a waste of time. Sheesh.